This week we discussed how we can show real confidence in others, not just a casual pat on the back that may have no basis in fact. Have you ever received a compliment that you knew was not true or that felt like someone was just puffing you up? Of course you have. Somewhere along the way we decided that positive statements were required in conversation. In efforts to be pleasant we have resorted to lying to one another. You may think that sounds harsh but it is not too far from reality. We seek to cover up our lack of real closeness by constantly saying nice things to one another. If it isn't true is it really nice? If it is said just to fill dead space in the conversation because you have nothing of substance to say, is it really nice? Real compliments are needed. Real confidence is needed. We need to build up one another, equip one another. But those things must come from truth and the spirit. I am beginning to sound like a broken record. You have to know someone to know their gifts. It is evident from the letters to Timothy that Paul KNEW him. He knew his history and family and was able to lift him up and encourage his personal gifts. Our friends and co-laborers need encouragement. Your acknowledgement of their gift may set them on a path of greater service. You may be the spark that begins much. Life is not always easy and confidence can do a great deal to keep us moving forward.
What did Paul express confidence in? First he expressed confidence in Timothy's faith. Faith that came from his mother and grandmother.
Next he expresses confidence in his gifts. Gifts that can be fanned into flame by the Holy Spirit. He reminds Timothy, and us, that we do not walk this road alone.
Some of us may need a confidence booth in our faith - there are valleys and peaks in all things.
Some of us may need a confidence boost in our gifts/abilities. It may take someone else to point out an effective role for our talents.
What can we do?
- Examine your speech this week. Watch for pleasant sounding remarks that may not actually be true. Attempt to speak only truth.
- Offer an encouraging remark to someone who is having a slump in their faith walk. Boost their spiritual confidence. Remind them of when they supported you, prayed for you, lifted you up.
- Point out some one's gift. You may be the first person, or the 100th, but all confidence helps. Give an example of where you see the gift. BE specific. Be truthful. Don't just toss out the compliment and run away.
We will not have class for the next two weeks, so look for the next Tuesday Teaser in the next year!
